We’re just not on the same wavelength

…but you could be!
Relationships & Synchrony Training.
          Have you ever had the thought, “We just don’t see eye to eye” or “He just doesn’t get me” or “She doesn’t communicate…we end up fighting” ….?  I’m sure you’re not alone. The balancing act of being in a relationship takes work…and when your brainwaves don’t match up it can makes things even more difficult.
          Brain waves? What?
          Yes…relationships can bring out the best or worse in us. At the worst you might see defense mechanisms and distorted beliefs or faulty thoughts. When we are expressing these emotions our frontal lobe shuts down…this is the part of the brain associated with reasoning, emotions, and speech. Once this happens we pretty much succumb to reacting unpredictably. Our chances at constructive communication and a happy outcome are pretty much non-existent.
          What is brain coherence and synchrony?
            Coherence applies to brain waves that maintain a consistent relationship with each other. Phase synchrony applies to a particular kind of coherence, one in which brain waves of a specific frequency peak and valley at the same time. When they peak and valley perfectly in time they are said to be phase synchronous.  The main benefit of synchrony training is to help the brain return to a flexible and relaxed state so that it is ready for anything. In this state people report feelings of intimacy and a reduction in stress.

          Getting on the same wave length.
          I find synchrony training with couples fascinating!  Just imagine improving connectedness through neurofeedback….a tangible method in which you can observe your brain frequencies on a computer monitor!  You simply link up partners to produce a whole head phase synchrony…and you get feedback only when you are in synch with each other. You can expect the experience to lead to feelings of harmony and unity. Ultimately you are able to train your brain and employ self-regulation of your brain frequencies.
          My favorite neurofeedback protocol, and the one I’ve had the most experience with, is the BrainPaint program. Bill and Cora Scott, the creators, have provided an invaluable brain training tool.
          So, if you are finding yourself out of synch with someone in your life (partner, parent, child) give BrainPaint a try and “create your life.”