The Art of Lovemaking

By Elizabeth Rocchino

When you think of sex, you probably think of the act of release. What, then, is lovemaking? And is it more fulfilling than sex alone? 

 

Let me introduce you to the concept of lovemaking where two souls exchange energies. Human beings are made up of many layers of vibrating energy, each with its own specific vibration and purpose. The physical part of us is created from and sustained by, it’s energetic layers. 

It's an amazing vessel in which we as a soul can experience the physical plane of existence.

 

The same concept applies to making love. What we're really doing is exchanging energies, your energies and your partner’s. It’s like alchemy that, when engaged together in love through the connection of the vital source (the divine) can open and heal the mind, body, heart and soul. 

Our physical body is the part of ourselves that we are usually most familiar with because we can directly experience it as an apparently solid physical form. However, it's good to keep in mind that we're actually created from the energies of our body, which is greatly influenced by our emotions and thoughts. 

Therefore, sex is an energetic exchange and sharing not just a means to release or the satisfaction of the body but an exchange of energy. Your body may be satisfied, but if it remains on a purely physical level, you'll only experience a pure high and miss out on a higher connection to the source. Real fulfillment cannot be achieved through the body alone as it's transitory. This means it is temporary.

 

Lovemaking happens when you are fully aware that you are a body and soul, not just a physical body. It is then that lovemaking becomes the opportunity for the soul through the vehicle of your body to interchange, communicate and express love as a gift to one another. 

When you give yourself to your partner sexually with love as the foundation, you no longer see your partner as a separate self or simply as another body of flesh. It is then that the love shifts to a deeper state and your lovemaking moved to a spiritual level. The act becomes a sacred communion and the illusion of separation between you and your partner disseminates and you emerge as ONE.

 

Once you become aware that you and your partner are no longer bodies but souls, you can then allow each other’s body to serve as a temple becoming the portal into a deeper connection of the Infinite or divine. It is at this point that love energy is felt and becomes in the truest sense Lovemaking. 

You are both sharing the love in that present moment. So, be fully present and learn to surrender and set yourself free from expectations or what society has set as examples. This is in turn creates freedom.

 

The act of lovemaking entails that we surrender ourselves or become vulnerable, not just to your partner but also to the Divine that is living within us all. And remember, that lovemaking is positive and beautiful. 

The cells of our body respond to our emotional state. High frequency, positive emotions like love, happinessand joy create the optimum environment for generating strong, healthy cells, while lower frequency emotions like fear, anger, doubt etc tend to have the reverse effect. So enjoy, let go and be present.

 

True lovemaking happens when you realize, embrace and embody that you are LOVE.

Let go of grudges and feel better

By Steve Sisgold

 

If you've ever been dumped by a lover, demoted by a boss, or hurt or bullied by an old classmate, did you hold onto hateful thoughts or even carry revengeful actions out on them to get even or even feel better? It wouldn't be surprising if you did either of them, since we watch so many movies and feel so good when the good guy gets even with the villain.
However, new research is shining light on who actually gets hurt the most by carrying grudges and having prolonged hateful thoughts. According to Duke University, Univ. of Tennessee, and Stanford University, "Holding onto hurts, grudges, annoyances, pet peeves or old wounds hurts the body, especially when the memories are triggered by current life events." They confirmed a physiological link between negative emotional states like revengeful thinking and actions and how it produces stress on the body. They found that stress from revenge or hateful thoughts also lowers the immune system, leaving you more vulnerable to illness and asserts that, "People who are able to forgive can actually modify their heart rate, lower their blood pressure, decrease physical pain and even relieve their depression." Harvard Women's Health Watch also reported findings on how forgiveness instead of hate or holding on to grudges can benefit your mental and physical health. 

           

Two people who know a lot about the healing power of forgiveness are authors Master Charles Cannon and Will Wilkinson, who wrote a revolutionary new book, Forgiving the Unforgivable, How Survivors of the Mumbai Terrorist Attack Answered Hatred With Love.

Cannon, a Vedic Monk with a nonprofit foundation based in Virginia, told me about how he chose forgiveness over hate in Mumbai when he and 24 of his associates, visiting ashrams throughout India, found themselves under siege in the Oberoi, a five star hotel in Mumbai. "We all could have died," he admitted, " and two in our group did. Another four were injured. But, still, that didn't mean we couldn't forgive the terrorists."

He explained why they chose love instead of hate. "It wasn't about denying what we felt," Master Charles explained. "It was horrible. We were afraid and terrified! Who wouldn't be? And when we learned the fate of our dear friends, we were deeply, deeply saddened. But the question remained, How would we choose to be in relation to what happened? Would we assume the role of victims who wanted our attackers to be punished? Or, could we make another choice? We did. We chose to answer with love, instead of hatred. We refused to let the terrorists control us and make us be just like them and we felt better for that choice"

News reports of other recent disasters have featured similar extraordinary gestures of forgiveness that made the victims feel better. When gunman Charles Roberts killed five young girls in an Amish school shooting in Pennsylvania, Amish community members chose to comfort Roberts' widow and even set up a charitable fund for the shooter's family. Azim Khamisa's son Tariqu was murdered in a gang-related incident but Azim chose to forgive rather than to seek revenge. He has since written four books and now offers public presentations and corporate seminars around the world on the power of forgiveness.

Is there a secret to forgiving the unforgivable? "It's all about who we choose to be in response to violence," Cannon believes. "If we retaliate with anger and vengeance then we've let another person control how we act and feel."

While most of us will never need to match the heroics of the Amish community or Cannon or Khamisa, we can learn how to forgive in our everyday lives. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy and let go of stress, anger and pain you may be holding onto. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of improved physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.