So I’m a little behind the times. I finally got around to reading 50 Shades of Grey, and watching the Twilight saga. I then extended my newfound addiction to The Vampire Diaries.
And I think I’ve figured out why these particular stories have been so captivating to women…in each story the woman is highly desired by a man…. a handsome one at that. Who wouldn’t want to be courted, doted over, and swept off her feet? It’s not simply the passion or hot intimacy, it’s the fantasy of being completely adored and put on a pedestal.
In our quest to find and sustain true love we expect someone who will dedicate and devote 100% to making us feel special, loved and happy.
But is that reality? Isn’t it solely reserved for seductive daydreams and top selling novels?
Perhaps. But I think it is possible to bring a little Fifty, Edward, and Damon into your life. The thing is…. you have to put in the effort too.
If you’re looking for a relationship in which joy, happiness, laughter and love are abundant, then maybe you want to:
* Find ways to frequently remind your partner about how much you appreciate him.
* Find ways to frequently remind your partner about how much you appreciate him.
* Hold his hand, rub his shoulder, pat his back. Little signs of affection can go a long way.
* Stop nagging about the dishes on the counter and put them away. Next time he cleans up tell him how much it means to you that he contributes to household chores.
* If you’re upset about something – tell him. Don’t play the silence game and expect him to read your mind.
* If you want something – ask for it. Again, he’s not a mind reader.
* Set aside, at the minimum, one night each week to connect with your partner. Turn off the TV and play cards, go for a walk, stroll around a book store….do something together. In the beginning you ignored your friends to hang out with him….he still deserves some of your undivided attention.
* Give him a card…funny, romantic, obscure. Leave it on his car, in the refrigerator, or taped to the bathroom sink….again, it’s the little things that show you care.
If you want a relationship in which you feel special…..remember it’s a two way street. Fictional characters give and give and give…even up against a fight. In our world it takes two to create the relationship you always wanted.
