Based on a post by Lashelle Charde September 2009
New relationships always seem so exciting. While floating on love chemicals you begin
developing intimacy without the interruption of any major stressors. Think
about the beginning of a romantic relationship….plenty of compliments, engaging
conversations, and nurturing.
Think of expressing to your partner your appreciation of
him….what delights you about him ….and make it consistent. It’s like eating vegetables. You eat
vegetable every day because they keep your body health…your relationship needs
that same kind of consistent nurturing.
Celebrating and seeing your partner doesn’t mean offering
praise or overused phrases like “good job”, “you did great”, “that’s wonderful
honey”. It means sharing from your heart
and being specific.
Let’s imagine a scenario.
Betty and Bill have been together
for 17 years. Bill comes home one
evening and sees Betty in the garden.
She has loved gardening since he met her years ago. The scene is a familiar one. Bill pauses to watch her and this time he
really takes her in. He notices the way
she tucks her hair behind her ear. He
sees the slight smile and look of satisfaction as she drops ripe tomatoes in
her basket. He watches the way she moves
being gentle and careful in her step.
Betty looks up and sees him looking on.
“What?” she says. Bill walks over
to her and says, “I love seeing you in the garden. The gentleness and love you express and how
much you enjoy yourself. I am so happy
you have this.”
Here Bill expresses his delight in something meaningful and
alive in his partner. Celebrating your
partner in this subtle heartfelt way every day can help wake up the intimacy
between two hearts that have drifted apart.
This week celebrate your partner at least once each
day. Put a bead in your pocket at the
start of every morning as a reminder of your intention.
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